Are Southerners friendly or just busybodies?

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Are Southerners friendly or are they busybodies?   I think this question probably depends on who you ask.  People are friendly everywhere, not only here in the South.  I think what separates Southerners apart is our overly friendly nature, particularly, to strangers.

I’ve visited most of the United States and I’ve lived in several states (although, all were southern) and I’ve discovered Southerners greet others and strike up conversations anytime they’re stuck in a line, especially, Wal Mart and the grocery store.  I’m sure we do it to pass the time but I, also, think we’re curious by nature and want to know about the other person which leads to the moniker of busybody.

I’ve found, generally, those from non-southern states are less likely to greet others they don’t know or talk to them while waiting in line.  In fact, when I’ve attempted it; I’ve gotten stares, however, a smile works wonders on our non-southern counterparts.  They will respond to smiling. Once they’re acquainted with you, Northerners, the nice name for those we call not from the South which includes everybody else, are friendly and very hospitable.

My home state of Mississippi has been dubbed the “Hospitality State.”  In fact, we, even, have a Miss Hospitality Pageant that’s how serious we take being friendly.  And speaking of pageants, I’m saving our infatuation with them for another post.

Hospitable, as defined by The American Heritage Dictionary, is “welcoming guests with warmth and generosity, fond of entertaining, well-disposed toward strangers, and having an open and charitable mind.”   I couldn’t have described us any better.

Doodlebug and I discuss  Southern friendliness

I hope you’ll come back tomorrow.  So, in true Southern slang, how’re you and them?



“Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up.  Make friends with nobodies; don’t be the great somebody.” Romans 12:15,16  The Message

4 thoughts on “Are Southerners friendly or just busybodies?

  1. This one is something I’ve been thinking about alot. Of course if Mississippi has a reputation for being friendly, NYC has a reputation for being…well, not. We’ve found this, so far, to be really untrue. Especially in Brooklyn. But I do think there’s a big difference. We asked people specific questions about neighborhoods and such and they’d tell us their LIFE STORY. Here (to me!) it’s mostly chit chat, about “polite” things like the weather and family and such. I have no doubt those Northern folks would be happy to jump to politics or something else “untouchable” in about ten minutes. Another thing I’ve noticed, though, is that in the North you don’t *have* to have those conversations. My dad is really introverted and honestly, I think he’d have an easier time of it somewhere else. Here, people sometimes (very wrongly) assume he’s stuck up and unfriendly when really he’s just not extroverted at all and isn’t OVERLY friendly, as you said. It’s all super interesting to me!

    • I’ve been to NYC and I thought the people were very friendly and helpful, particularly with suggestions of what to see, where to eat or how to get somewhere.

  2. My mother never went shopping without chatting to anyone and everyone. I’d ask her “who was that”? Her response was always I don’t know. But she chatted with them as if they were best friends. Shopping was never quick.

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